Cruel things women do to men.

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    We all think that mostly boys/men are wrong... and that boys are to be blamed. Hear hear... girls/women can be cruel too!! Some of the tricks they play with boys/men are as follows:

Emotional blackmail: This is the worst thing a women could do to a man. Men, by nature, hate any sort of unnecessary emotional involvement and women are known to get their way by emotionally blackmailing  them into doing what they want. Common blackmailing dialogues are: "You don't love me anymore", "Am i nothing for you?", "Would you leave me alone?"

Cry: This is the biggest weapon women could ever possess. And when they shed their tears, the strongest of hearts melt and they gain the sympathy. Women can cry a river to make you fulfill her demands... better watch out boys... don't get drowned in that river!

Be incommunicado: Women sometimes become unavailable. And God forbid, a fight ensues between you and your girl; she won't answer your phone or respond to your texts, giving you a hard time. You can say, it's her time to get some footage from you. After all, most women are 'attention hungry'!

Get a free drink: How many times it has happened that you spotted a hot chick at the bar and walked upto her, offering to buy her a drink, only to realise later that she already has a man in her life! This is one of those things, women use men for. As they say, 'never say no to alcohol', holds true to women as well.

No sex: One of the most often used tactics to extract  what they want from their man. Women use sex as an efficient tool to get things done their way and if not, then no sex for you dear!

Treat men as personal chauffeurs:  So they have a party to go to and you happen to own a vehicle... God save you if you refuse to drop her to the venue. While you are in a relationship, pick-up and drop services are one of the common things to happen to you.

 ... Or as body guards: So what if the girl doesn't want to date you? She can use you to protect herself from the unwanted men around. Women, who often have no intention of dating, use potential guys for their personal security.

 Squander your money: While it is perfectly normal for a guy to offer to pay for a dinner date once in a while, it is certainly cruel if he has to pick up the tab each time a date is planned. Girls always cash-in their men. Dinners, gifts and shopping are always on their list. So guys, keep your wallet heavy....always.

 Criticise your Mom: Being a girlfriend is the best possible excuse to criticise your mother. Doesn't matter if she is the world's best Mom, for your girl, she is the 'other woman'. And the other thing is that no man can peacefully have two women at a time in his life.

Keep your girl friends(female friends) at bay: If you have a lot of female friends, it's time you bid them farewell. It doesn't matter whether you are meeting just for a cup of coffee, the friend is a potential threat for your girl. Or else get ready to be questioned always by your girl.... "Who is she??? Why does she always want to meet you?? Why do you meet so often??? "

    So that is all I have to say... And what else... If you think your girl doesn't do the above things to you, then you are a very lucky man!! That is why I always say: "It's easy to get a girlfriend... but it's very difficult to get a good girlfriend!" Now what do you mean by a good girlfriend... well... I don't know the answer for that... I request you to let me know if you have the answer! tc.

Which one is better... Love marriage or arranged?

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    Which one is better – Love marriage or arranged? The issue is debatable all over the globe, especially in eastern countries like India where arrange marriage is a tradition. As this question hits you, what strikes in your mind first.... and why?

    Education, media and many other factors have played a vital role in changing the Indian mentality about love marriages. Love marriage is supposed to provide freedom and more independence as compared to arranged marriages where the bride/groom is chosen by the parents. The usual question of love marriage supporters is that how can anyone marry the person whom they don’t know at all?

    India has an old tradition of arranged marriages. Some of my friends say that caste system gave birth to arrange marriages, as the upper caste families didn’t want their children to marry outside their caste and thus maintain the purity of their gene pool.  Earlier parents had sole right over finding the match for their children. Consulting the priest, matching their horoscopes... everything was done by the elderly people. So much so that the bride and groom couldn't even see each others face until they got married.

      Both love and arranged marriages have their pros and cons. In case of love marriage, you already know what kind of person you are marrying.... So there are less chances of misunderstandings and negligible chance of incompatibility. And the the most important thing: "You love that person". So there is no problem as such. In arrange marriages, you are expected to make a lot of adjustments and compromises.... now some people may throw a dialogue here: " Even love is a compromise!".... The best thing is to ignore such dialogues... :-) :-)... OK... jokes apart... The biggest hurdle in arranged marriage is 'incompatibility'... What if the partners don't understand each other??? What if the partner turns out to be a big disappointment for you... You  definitely can't spend your life with such a person. That is why they say that: "It's better to marry a known Kamina than an unknown Namuna..!!!"

    Now you must have got a rosy picture about Love marriage... right??? It seems so... but not all love marriages have happy endings. Sometimes discord arises even in love marriages. After spending a happy time, the same love couple can be seen regretting on their decisions. They find it difficult  to save their marriage... and if things get worse... they  have to break up at last. Now that they have themselves chosen their life partner and had a perfect tuning, then why there is this tragic end? 
     Perhaps to avoid this kind of tragedy, some youngsters prefer arranged marriages. After all it is a safe option. It is assumed that arranged marriages take place only in the east... but that is not the case friend... Arranged marriages happened even in Victorian Europe. The best part in an arranged marriage is that parents, family and relatives... they all are happy that they have themselves arranged the marriage for their younger ones. No tears... no negotiations... no TV serial drama... no battle.... Everything goes smooth... And you know that arranged marriages offer more social and financial security. It's good for those who want to play safe... always!

       To decide which kind of marriage is ideal, is an never-ending debate. Love or arranged, both need  love, loyalty, responsibility and commitment. A marriage needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain the relation. So, there is nothing like an ideal marriage. It’s all about the way you perceive your marriage. The target is the to maintain the zeal... the happiness.... the stability in the relationship (in spite of problems) irrespective of whether it is love or arranged marriage.
        In rare cases, it happens that parents agree to their child's preference... Whatever it may be...all they want is that their son/daughter live a happy life... You are lucky if you got such parents...!!!!

       The best thing (according to me) is to leave everything to Almighty... Let Him decide what is good for us... I am too young to think about such things (marriages).... marriages are too complex for us... and for some adults as well!!!So enjoy every moment of life...!!! tc.

Should we always speak the TRUTH?

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      Our parents teach us to speak the truth throughout life. When we were kids, we often heard how terrible it was not tell the truth. If we misbehaved, didn’t do something we were supposed to do, or broke something, the punishment was harsher if it was discovered that we had lied about it. But the thing is... to instill this virtue of truth in our mind, our parents tend to lie us... they make all fake theories that we will always face a bad omen, nothing will work for us, we will meet a bad end.... blah blah blah... if we lie!!!
      But we all know that we can't always speak the truth. Let’s start with something simple like a day when we may be feeling down. Then, when we are asked, “how are you doing today?” we say, “Oh good! I’m fine!”  Or take the every-day's best example: A student reaches late for the lecture. When he/she is asked for the reason for being late, hardly 0.1%  will speak the truth. So what? It's absolutely OK to speak such small lies. Coz they make more good than harm! In short, we make conscious decisions to not tell the truth every single day, probably several times per day. And, to make us feel better about them, some1 invented a category for them called White Lies. Oh, and by the way, "White lies come with an instant pardon that absolves us of the sin and neutralizes any bad karma", says our very own Bhagwad Gita.
      Someone once said that “Truth is about how we feel and what is real to us. Truth is not about being right; it’s about expressing what we think and feel in an authentic, vulnerable and transparent way.”  I think that last statement shares an important clue to speaking, hearing and seeing truth.
      On the other hand, bigger truths carry some serious weight and the consequences of not telling them can be severe. A very good example is when you are getting into a relationship.... ahan... by the word relationship, don't think only the gf/bf relation.... here, i mean every good relation existing under the mighty hand of a GOD. Let it be any relation, you should be true to it and stick to the laws of truth. One more quote from Bhagwad Gita for all the readers: “The supreme truth exists both internally and externally, in the moving and non-moving. He is beyond the power of material senses to see or know. Although, far, far away, he is also near to all.”

Anger.... what to do with it?

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Anger is a human expression... a very common one! It is a personal feeling and everybody has a different way to express it. Some people just burst it out aloud... which is the most common way of expressing it, while some are sober when it comes to showing anger!

When we hear the word anger, we always have bad thoughts about people expressing anger, but sometimes it might be good. When some people get rid of anger, they feel better after it because their body is much more relaxed. But i don't completely agree with the above statement.... When I get angry, I don't vent my anger openly.Instead i count hundred to get a control over my anger... and my friends know this fact very well!

A very good quote from Bhagavad Gita on this topic: “Delusion arises from anger. The mind is bewildered by delusion. Reasoning is destroyed when the mind is bewildered. One falls down when reasoning is destroyed.”  So... the moral of the story is: "Temper is a valuable possession.. don't let it go easily!" 

My mother says that "Hell has three gates: Anger, lust and greed!"  Ya... it is again some good quote from Bhagavad Gita.... But i do respect and like this quote a lot. So... now i think bahut lecture ho gaya hai.... I'll end this post by saying: Whenever you get angry, just calm down and laugh like Dr. J. Asthana from Munnabhai movie! It'll definitely help you!

The unpredictable Teenage!

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I am 19 complete.... and my teenage has ended....well datz a 3-month old matter that i am saying now....!!! In our teenage, we learn a lot about life ..... Some people say that the attitude which you develop in teenage remains the same throughout your life.....!!!!You can change that attitude... but it requires lots of efforts!


These lines are for all those who have surpassed this unpredictable teenage:


"Teenage Years...
Big dreams....
Stupid fights ....
Sleepy days ....
Endless nights .....
Broken hearts .....
Mascara tears .....
Cell phone bills ....
Report card fears ....
Clothes too tight .....
Shoes so high .....
Out past curfew .....
Another lie .....
Eyeshadow color .....
Midnight black ....
Lip gloss flavor .....
Cherry Attack .....
Belts with stars .....
Boys with cars ....
Just a taste of teenage years .....
When even your biggest problems ....
Are too small for tears..... !"

Ignorance_ An unidentified bliss

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For me, ignorance is a good companion. It has helped me in many ways....! I think that ignorance must be bliss if one is ignorant of one's ignorance. Once one becomes aware of it then that blissful state is lost and the only way of regaining it is to go for the ultimate truth. 

I have come across many people who always moan about their sorrows and unhappiness...! They are kind of energy suckers....!!! If you stay with them for a long time, then you have to breathe the negative air that they exhale! In such cases, ignorance is the ultimate solution...!

You must have heard about the quote: "Ignorance is a bliss!" It means that Not knowing something is often more comfortable than knowing it. Just think over it for sometime.....! Don't you think that this is applicable in our day-to-day life.

Social Media proves Ignorance is Bliss:

With the ability to interact with fellow readers and comment on articles, the popularity of online social media is skyrocketing. Despite all the intelligent technology involved with these new interactive tools, it seems ignorance is also soaring.
In the old days, before the world wide web, any article we read was most likely written by a professional journalist. There were special sections, such as op-ed, designated for actual opinions on specific newsworthy subjects. Nowadays it's hard to separate those based on actual fact from those based on pure fiction.
Amid all the cyber-content clutter, there are some trusted, newsworthy stories out there, which most web savvy users can distinguish from virtual viewpoints. Yet, after discovering and enjoying this informative pieces, it appears from the extremely biased comments left by other readers that they'd much prefer fiction over fact.
It is true that every article one indulges must be taken with a grain of salt. After all, we are all human and sometimes authors, unfortunately, try to dictate the story rather than the other way around.