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Which one is better – Love marriage or arranged? The issue is debatable all over the globe, especially in eastern countries like India where arrange marriage is a tradition. As this question hits you, what strikes in your mind first.... and why?
Education, media and many other factors have played a vital role in changing the Indian mentality about love marriages. Love marriage is supposed to provide freedom and more independence as compared to arranged marriages where the bride/groom is chosen by the parents. The usual question of love marriage supporters is that how can anyone marry the person whom they don’t know at all?
India has an old tradition of arranged marriages. Some of my friends say that caste system gave birth to arrange marriages, as the upper caste families didn’t want their children to marry outside their caste and thus maintain the purity of their gene pool. Earlier parents had sole right over finding the match for their children. Consulting the priest, matching their horoscopes... everything was done by the elderly people. So much so that the bride and groom couldn't even see each others face until they got married.
Both love and arranged marriages have their pros and cons. In case of love marriage, you already know what kind of person you are marrying.... So there are less chances of misunderstandings and negligible chance of incompatibility. And the the most important thing: "You love that person". So there is no problem as such. In arrange marriages, you are expected to make a lot of adjustments and compromises.... now some people may throw a dialogue here: " Even love is a compromise!".... The best thing is to ignore such dialogues... :-) :-)... OK... jokes apart... The biggest hurdle in arranged marriage is 'incompatibility'... What if the partners don't understand each other??? What if the partner turns out to be a big disappointment for you... You definitely can't spend your life with such a person. That is why they say that: "It's better to marry a known Kamina than an unknown Namuna..!!!"
Now you must have got a rosy picture about Love marriage... right??? It seems so... but not all love marriages have happy endings. Sometimes discord arises even in love marriages. After spending a happy time, the same love couple can be seen regretting on their decisions. They find it difficult to save their marriage... and if things get worse... they have to break up at last. Now that they have themselves chosen their life partner and had a perfect tuning, then why there is this tragic end?
Perhaps to avoid this kind of tragedy, some youngsters prefer arranged marriages. After all it is a safe option. It is assumed that arranged marriages take place only in the east... but that is not the case friend... Arranged marriages happened even in Victorian Europe. The best part in an arranged marriage is that parents, family and relatives... they all are happy that they have themselves arranged the marriage for their younger ones. No tears... no negotiations... no TV serial drama... no battle.... Everything goes smooth... And you know that arranged marriages offer more social and financial security. It's good for those who want to play safe... always!
Perhaps to avoid this kind of tragedy, some youngsters prefer arranged marriages. After all it is a safe option. It is assumed that arranged marriages take place only in the east... but that is not the case friend... Arranged marriages happened even in Victorian Europe. The best part in an arranged marriage is that parents, family and relatives... they all are happy that they have themselves arranged the marriage for their younger ones. No tears... no negotiations... no TV serial drama... no battle.... Everything goes smooth... And you know that arranged marriages offer more social and financial security. It's good for those who want to play safe... always!
To decide which kind of marriage is ideal, is an never-ending debate. Love or arranged, both need love, loyalty, responsibility and commitment. A marriage needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain the relation.
In rare cases, it happens that parents agree to their child's preference... Whatever it may be...all they want is that their son/daughter live a happy life... You are lucky if you got such parents...!!!!
In rare cases, it happens that parents agree to their child's preference... Whatever it may be...all they want is that their son/daughter live a happy life... You are lucky if you got such parents...!!!!
