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Ok.. so after a very long time, today I planned to write something on a non-technical topic. With the start of 2013, I thought about writing something about Men and Women.
Why men and women are different..?? Why Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus..?? Why Men and women relationships are so complex..?? Do Men and Women have equal rights..?? Are Men more into technical stuff than Women..?? Why Men think Women are not-so-good behind the steering wheel..?? Why women think men are insensitive..?? N the list goes on...!!
As I get mature every year, I think a lot more about how males and females differ. Let’s
take an every day example. A woman complains that her male partner
does not listen. Women often complain that a male counterpart wants to provide
advice when she talks about a problem. Women can feel unheard in this
situation, as they would like their partners to remark on the content of their
feelings. Sounds familiar?
Yes... men and women are different. They are from different planets. I am quoting these lines from the book 'Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus' (You can download the e-book for free. Click HERE):
Imagine that men are from Mars and women are from
Venus. One day long ago the Martians, looking through their telescopes, discovered the
Venusians. just glimpsing the Venusians awakened feelings they had never known. They fell in
love and quickly invented space travel and flew to Venus. The Venusians welcomed the Martians with open arms.
They had intuitively known that this day would come. Their hearts opened wide to a love
they had never felt before. The love between the Venusians and Martians was
magical. They delighted in being together, doing things together, and sharing together. Though
from different worlds, they reveled in their differences. They spent months learning about
each other, exploring and appreciating their different needs, preferences, and behavior
patterns. For years they lived together in love and harmony. Then they decided to fly to Earth. In the beginning
everything was wonderful and beautiful. But the effects of Earth's atmosphere took hold, and
one morning everyone woke up with a peculiar kind of amnesiaselective amnesia! Both the Martians and Venusians forgot that they
were from different planets and were supposed to be different. In one morning everything
they had learned about their differences was erased from their memory. And since that day men
and women have been in conflict.
Without the
awareness that we are supposed to be different, men and women are at odds with
each other. We usually become angry or frustrated with the opposite sex because
we have forgotten this important truth. We expect the opposite sex to be more
like ourselves. We desire them to "want what we want" and "feel
the way we feel." We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they
will react and behave in certain ways-the ways we react and behave when we love
someone. This attitude sets us up to be disappointed again and prevents us from
taking the necessary time to communicate lovingly about our differences. Men
mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women
mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way women do. We
have forgotten that men and women are supposed to be different. As a result our
relationships are filled with unnecessary friction and conflict. Clearly
recognizing and respecting these differences dramatically reduce confusion when
dealing with the opposite sex. When you remember that men are from Mars and
women are from Venus, everything can be explained.
Talking openly about the biological differences between men
and women can be complicated. Louann Brizendine, M.D. wrote a bestselling book
in 2006 about the way male and female brains and bodies differ. Whatever
readers or reviewers thought about the book, it has been translated into
